Happy New Year
I greet you with a Happy New Year from Norwich, UK. 2011 certainly went very quickly – it feels like only yesterday that I was cleaning up the flat on the 1st January 2011 after a New Years Party. I’m really happy that it’s now 2012, and I’m looking to make this the best year that I’ve had yet both personally and professionally.
2011 – The Year of a Negative Entity?
Looking back at last year, it’s incredible the amount of time I wasted each day when I could have been taking care of business. It was as if I was possessed by some negative entity who just simply wouldn’t let me work however much I tried. I would force myself to get some work done, but immediately I would have a massive resistance to doing it. I was certainly in a negative cycle. When you do this when you are self-employed, everything suffers – money, life, family, friends, social stuff, health, etc. Maybe one day I will make the time to meditate over the reasons for it, but going forward I’ve learnt several key principles that you must have if you wish to have a successful life.
Key Principles for a Successful Life
Create a Vision Document
A vision document is a one page overview of your ideal lifestyle and it should be the result of a good amount of thinking, writing and condensing down all those ideas that you’ve had about what you want to achieve in your life. When you have a vision of what your ideal lifestyle is like, you have a pathway to follow. I think that everyone can find it ridiculously easy to make a vision document; we all know really what we value in life, and it’s just a matter of making the effort and put it down in writing. My vision is split down into twelve sections and when I read the whole document, I really feel like there is nothing to add or subtract from it. That’s how I know it’s the right vision for me. A vision doesn’t need to be earth shattering – paradigm shifting or world changing; for me one of my values is simply to play football far more often and to get qualified as a FA coach. Playing football each week is a really simple thing to achieve, but if you are self-employed and don’t make it a priority then likely you won’t fit it into your schedule. That’s what having a vision is all about – knowing what your priorities are.
START LOOKING AT LIFE DIFFERENTLY with an attitude of gratitude
I am amazed at how powerful the concept of perception is, when you truly understand it. What I mean, is that as we grow into adults we automatically carry along with us our old understandings of the world that we learnt as we grew up. Thus someone can look at the same situation completely differently from another person. In almost all esoteric and classic learning material that I have read, the concept of gratitude is named as the foundation to a happy life. In certain cases, gratitude is linked to the law of attraction (if you believe in that!) and I personally believe that learning about gratitude can be the key to unlocking a negative mind and creating a really positive, enthusiastic personality.
Let’s take a fairly simple and common situation. You are broke and have no money. Even worse, you owe money to friends, family and banks. This is a mindset of poverty and the more you focus on it the more likely you are to feel negative about your situation. The more you feel negative, the less personal power you have to actually change the situation because working hard becomes a lot more difficult when you’re feeling despondent about your life. However, I’d like to point out that virtually everyone I know, whether they have money or not, is immensely rich when you consider our standard of living. We have homes with central heating, plumbing, entertainment, cookers, fridges, showers, etc. One hundred years ago, a king would be proud of the bed I wake up in, the carpet I walk on, the hot water coming from the shower and the whole range of other riches we have just within our houses. The kings of yesterday would not be able to fathom the technology we have at our disposal – WE ARE LIVING IN PARADISE PEOPLE, AND WE DON’T EVEN KNOW IT! If I wanted to I could go further; sometimes I will walk into town and marvel at the absolute abundance around us – even the most obvious things like pedestrian pavements (sidewalks), traffic lights, tarmac roads, brightly lit shops with every convenience and let’s not even talk about the mind boggling variety of food we can choose from in the supermarkets…
And that is the point of gratitude. It’s a new way of perceiving life, and when you do it actively you really do wake up to the reality of our situation – whether you are tens of thousands of pounds in debt, the absolute reality is that you are immensely rich when you live in the Western world. For this you have to be thankful. Recognising abundance around you is a game you can play with yourself, and what’s more, you will never be the same. You will be happier, more positive and way more genuinely thankful for living at this time in history. This sort of positivity can go a long way toward making yourself a success.
This only scratches the surface – start thinking about your family, your friends, your customers, your experiences, your holidays, your successes – start looking at all the great things that have happened to you in your life. My personal experience was that I was looking at things really harshly, nothing was ever good enough, and I never had enough, but once I started reading about the power of gratitude my world started to change, and it can change yours as well. Even if you already have a positive attitude you can still maintain and strengthen it further by being even more grateful for the small things in life.
That’s my blog post for today. Take it from me, taking the time to create your vision document; and then from now on every day see how ridiculously decadent we are, and start living a new life with enthusiasm for all these riches of abundance around us.
Happy New Year!